We found out yesterday that our approval has been received in Addis (actually in Feb.) so I think that means that the Embassy has all they need to approve Jaren's Visa (except that court documents, that is). So, now we are waiting to hear when our court date is. I don't expect to hear anything until after Oct. 6th, when the courts reopen in Ethiopia. They have been closed due to the rainy season there.
We also found out yesterday that one of the SWs from Bethany IA will be traveling with us! She is a young gal, married, no kiddos, and we met her once at the informational meeting. I think I have spoken with her on the phone too. She is not
our SW, but nevertheless, I think it will be fun to travel with her. I am hoping she can hold our video camera when we meet Jaren for the first time!!
So, lots of people have been asking me the same questions about what the next steps are, etc.. So I thought I would post the answers just in case you were wondering too!!
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When do you go get him?We are expected to travel in November. First, we must pass court. Our Bethany director in Ethiopia will go to court on our behalf and then if we pass, we will be invited to travel within a few weeks of that, barring any unforeseeable circumstances.
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Will the girls go with you? Do you need childcare for them?No, my parents (Grammy and Papa) will be coming up here to stay with the kids so that Eden can continue to go to school as usual. If the trip happens to coincide with Thanksgiving, we will probably have them take the kids to their house so they don't miss out on their plans. That is the same weekend as the event that my sister Tiel has been planning at our church we grew up in. It would be a shame to miss that event but I don't think I will turn down a chance to go get my son! Sorry Tiel! Hope it doesn't come at the same time, but who am I kidding? This is
us.
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Do you know what happened to Jaren's parents?We were given a small amount of information on Jaren's first parents and why he was placed for adoption. We have chosen to keep that information private because we believe that one day he might want to know that information and he might choose not to tell others. There is nothing shameful or wrong with his story, we just want it to be his story to tell. We definitely are going to be open with him about how he came to us, don't get me wrong (I think he's gonna figure it out :), but we want him to feel like he has some ownership over his life story and not that we all know this and then one day he finds out what we have all known for years. I hope that makes sense!
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Do you need any...Clothes? no, I don't think so, since we just got a box of Marcus' adorable threads! Nice!
Diapers? We will be using disposables in Ethiopia, but once we are home I am planning on using cloth diapers and wipes to save some green and be a little more green. If you know of anyone selling Chinese prefold diapers (used, in good condition) and Thirsties or other brand diaper cover, please let me know! I would really like to try these first without making a big commitment money wise.
Donations for the orphanage? We are not going to take a ton of stuff, though we might take one duffle bag with small trinkets (pencils, erasers, small toys, balls, etc.) for the older kids at the orphanage and then buy some baby supplies to donate while we are in Ethiopia. If you'd like to be a part of that, let me know at grimesfam@gmail.com. We will not be taking a ton of clothes to donate, though we might take some if we can fit it in. We've been told that we are encouraged to bring money and shop for donations while we're there. If anyone has any good ideas of something we can bring as a gift to the nannies who have cared for Jaren, please let me know. I would love to give them something special but of course we have money constraints, so I'll have to be creative!
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Is Jaren healthy?We've been given his medical test results and he is said to be in VERY good health. Praise God! Of course, he will have his ups and downs, and he might even have undetected things, but praise God that he is growing well and looks very alert and healthy. We actually surprised at how healthy he looked in the referral photo.
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Will you be using formula with him?Yes, we will hopefully be able to purchase some of the brand of infant formula they are currently using with him while we are in Addis and then once home we will transition him slowly by increments to the new American formula.
Any more questions any one wants to ask? Feel free.